How Can I Help You?

By | January 5, 2019

In 1969 my son Jemal was born. When I held him for the first time, I made a vow that I would be a different kind of father than my father was able to be for me and I would help make the world a better place where men were fully healed and deeply connected to themselves, their families, and the world. For the last 50 years, I have helped men answer wholeheartedly “yes” to these important questions we all must address before we die: Did I live fully? Did I love deeply? Did I make a positive difference in the world?

I’ll be offering two new programs in support of that mission:

Program #1: How to Help an Angry Man: And Stop the Fights and Painful Silences That Harm Your Relationship

I’ve been helping men and the women who love them for more than 40 years. When I ask men and women what’s most important to them in their relationships, I hear many variations on a simple response. Men want more sex and fewer fights. Women want to feel safe and emotionally connected to their partner.

But too many couples feel frustrated with their inability to successfully get their needs met. I describe what I’ve learned dealing with my own irritability and anger and how I’ve helped thousands of men and women deal with these issues in my two best-selling books, The Irritable Male Syndrome and Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from The Irritable Male Syndrome and in my private counseling program.

This program will be offered online for the first time and is open to a limited number of women and men.

Program #2: 14 Rules for Becoming Your Own Man: Your Guide for Living Fully, Loving Deeply, and Making a Difference in the World.

In 2019, my latest book (my 16th) will be out. This program will offer the opportunity for a limited number of men who want my personal guidance and support to address these 14 core issues and who want to be part of a support network to put these practices into action. These 14 rules have guided my own life:

Rule #1: Accept the Gift of Maleness

Rule #2: Embrace Your 1 Billion Year History as Males

Rule #3: Join a Men’s Group and Learn to Hear the Sound That Male Cells Sing

Rule #4: Break Free From The Man Box and Get Healthy in Body, Mind, and Soul

Rule #5: Understand Your Anger and Fear of Women and Learn to Respect and Cherish the Sacred Feminine

Rule #6: Learn The Secrets of Real Lasting Love

Rule #7: Undergo Meaningful Rites of Passage From Youth to Adulthood and From Adulthood to Elderhood

Rule #8: Celebrate Your True Warrior Spirit and Learn Why Males Duel and Females Duet

Rule #9: Understand and Heal Your ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and Male Attachment Disorders (MAD)

Rule #10: Heal Your Mother and Father Wounds and Become the Father You Were Meant to Be

Rule #11: Treat the Irritable Male Syndrome and Male-Type Depression

Rule #12: Explore Your Family History and Accept Your Unique, Authentic, Self

Rule #13: Find Your Mission in Life and Do Your Part to Save Humanity

Rule #14: Accept the Challenges of Aging, Be With a Loved One When They Die, and Prepare For Your Own End of Life.

If you’d like to receive more details about the time, costs, and expected date when the programs will begin, drop me a note with the following information:

  • I’m interested in Program #1: How to Help an Angry Man
  • I’m interested in Program #2: Rules for Becoming My Own Man
  • I’m male or I’m female and I’m _______years old.
  • Here are two major questions I have that I’m hoping will be answered in the program.
  • How long have you been following me and my work?
  • Anything else you’d like me to know?
  • Your name and email address where you’d like more information sent.

If you have questions, feel free to email me ([email protected]) and put “Success in 2019” in the subject line.
Feel free to pass this information on to others.

Best wishes,


Originally published on Men Alive 

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